This. Is. Perfect. How to talk to our daughters about their bodies.

Every mom needs to read this! This is the most beautiful thing I have read in a long time. Can you imagine a world where every mother followed this? Can you imagine the strong women that would be going into our society ready to take on the world? I did not write this! I am reposting it simply because it is too beautiful not to share:

“How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are — you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.”

~ Sarah Koppelkam via The Cosmic Dancer


4 Comments Add yours

  1. This really hit a nerve , I’ve been brought up in a world of how I should look, I’m 31 still working on confidence although I feel I’m stronger from it I will never do the same to my children when I have them these are such amazing words and I think should shared time and time again thank you for a great read I couldn’t agree more X

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    1. I’m glad you liked it! I love how this is put, it is so true. We all need to think of this when speaking to our children.

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  2. Cookie says:

    Yup. We always talk about food making us strong and helping us grow. I refuse to project my own body image issues on to my daughter. She is beautiful just as she is, and I don’t want her to ever feel otherwise.

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    1. Yes! I want my daughter to grow up believing her body is capable of anything and not hating it for its shape!


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