How many times have I heard the phrase, ‘Your kid is missing out’ in my two and half years as a parent? At least a billion, maybe more!
I get it from friends, family, strangers, acquaintances, and especially from other moms. I hear it everyday!
I am here to tell you that, yes, my kid is missing out! My kid is missing out on a lot of things. Chicken nuggets, fruit loops, red dye, ear infections, daycare, TV, cartoons, and a whole slew of other things! My kid literally has the meanest mom and dad of all time!
Before you jump on the, ‘Anne is a bad mom’ train (trust me, the seats are about all taken), Let me explain!
First off, food. Yes, my kid is missing out on a lot of ‘kiddie’ foods! My child’s diet revolves around meat, veggies, fruit, and whole milk. REAL FOOD. My kid has never ate a chicken nugget and honestly if you put one in front of her she probably wouldn’t. My kid has never seen fruit loops at breakfast or pop tarts at snack time. Heck, my kid hasn’t even had the pleasure of instant pudding cups or lunchables (are those still a thing?). But guess what? My kid also has not had the pleasure of constant mood swings, food addictions, sugar crashes/highs, rotten teeth, unhealthy weight, sluggish feeling, or even the flu (Ok, she puked once for about 4 hours and that was that). Nutrition is the root of health. Food can either make you or break you. I am so much happier with spending a little extra on groceries when we don’t have to spend any at the doctor office. Just because a kid has endless options of junk at the store doesn’t mean you have to settle for that! My daughters favorite foods are currently: Bananas, pork, nuts, apples, oatmeal, yogurt, okra, tomatoes, carrots, broccoli, homemade granola bars, and cheese.
Second, TV. We don’t have TV. WE have not had TV for as long as my husband and I have lived together. My daughter has never known a home with TV service. We do however have an actual TV set and watch movies. And yes, my daughter is missing out on all those fabulous cartoons that are on air these days. I honestly couldn’t even name a current child TV show. We simply do not follow them, do not have any interest to, and feel our child is better off with the occasional ‘Tom and Jerry’ or ‘Flintstones’ than anything new. And while the other kids are discussing their TV faves, my daughter is completely lost in their conversation. And it’s ok! My daughter is much happier being outside, picking rocks, gardening, helping daddy at the farm, or working with her horses. Her mind is imaginative and always wandering into some sort of scene. My daughter can play inside or outside for a long time without ever needing to be entertained by a TV. And did I mention she loves books! She could look at books for hours. So yes, we are missing out on TV but I feel like we are gaining so much in other areas!
Third, dare I say it, the V word…… My daughter is missing out on vaccinations. She is missing out on all those doctor visits, needle pricks, and toxins. She is missing out on ear infections, allergies, asthma, and the common cold. She is missing out on antibiotics and sick days. She is missing out on learning delays, adverse reactions, and setbacks. Ugh, I know, my poor child! While this has been a very controversial decision as a parent, I truly believe that it is the right one. I did a lot, and I mean a lot, of research while pregnant debating on whether to vaccinate or not. I read article after article from both sides of the debate. I spoke with our family doctor (a more traditional, homeopathic, natural doctor) and also our OB doctor (a common OB doctor). Both had very different views! My husband and I came to the conclusion that vaccines were not for us and we have never been more sure of a parenting decision.
So yes, I am the meanest mom around. Call my crazy, tell me my kid is missing out, shake your head at me for not vaccinating my child. i have heard it all before.
And, I can assure you, our baby (that is due in 5 weeks) will miss out on all the same things our first is! I am raising deprived children, What can I say.
I am strong. I am capable.I am powerful. I am beautiful.